During a conversation with my husband last week, he said, “You sounded just like your mom, the way you said that.”
This wasn’t the first time he made the observation. Along with the unmistakable signs that I have become “a woman of a certain age” (ack!), sounding like my mother seems to have become yet another aspect of my getting older.
“Hmm,” I replied. “I was always told I was like Dad and his side of the family.”
“You may look like your dad, but you have more of Carrie’s mannerisms lately,” he told me.
So, yes. I grudgingly have to admit that sometimes, when the words fly out of my mouth, or if I behave in a certain way, it makes me think I may be morphing into the woman who raised me. For example, if I defend myself when teased, it’s as if I am channeling Mom. “You proper fun-makers!” Or if I refuse to give in to someone else’s demands, the comeback that comes to my mind is “And I won’t dance to your pipes!” These are just a couple of the dear old “Mom-isms” from yesteryear.
And there’s so much more. I’ve adopted her quick laugh, as well as her sardonic humour and her no-nonsense way of handling whatever life brings. All showing up in my actions, the older I get.
There was a time, when I was much younger, that I would have taken issue and disagreed with such a comparison. The truth is, I have always thought while growing up that I turned after my father. Dad had always been my hero of sorts, and he was the parent I had always identified with and wished to emulate.
But now, I see that bearing a resemblance to my mother is a badge of honour and a cherished rite of passage. In fact, I’m realizing if I could only be half the woman she was, with her intelligent observations and her kind, fun-loving nature, I would be more than proud.
In a couple of weeks when Mother’s Day rolls around, I will be remembering my mother again for the lovely yet strong person she was, for the way she lived her life, and for each and every valuable lesson she taught me. And even though I continue to miss her every single day that goes by, I will give thanks that she is still showing up in my life in other, more subtle ways. And I will give a special thank you to the universe for giving me the dearest woman anyone ever called Mom.
Jennifer a badge of honour for sure. I see my mum in myself the more I age too and she is one of the most positive ladies I know. So I also think its a special thing.
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It is special, Kath. I didn’t always think so, but I sure do now. ❤️
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Jennifer, what a lovely tribute to your mom. ❤ It's fun watching a daughter grow up to be herself and yet resemble both parents in so many ways.
Blessings & hugs ~ Wendy ❀
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Thank you, Wendy. Sons as well! ❤
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Oh yes, sons are an equal blessing. I adore mine, and I’m so glad they still allow me to hug them goodnight. ❤
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That’s sweet. I have to admit, I am very proud with the way my adult son and daughter turned out, with their strong work ethics, their values and their kind and loving hearts. I couldn’t have asked for more. Raising children is one of the toughest jobs, but it is also the most rewarding. I’m sure you would agree. 🙂
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🙂 Yes, really tough–but definitely rewarding.
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Sometimes I look in the mirror and see my mom–an expression of hers or certain lines I’d always noticed in her face. The Me twenty years ago drew conclusions I now see were wrong. Growing up is interesting, innit?
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You make a good point, Jacqui. Drawing the wrong conclusions seems to go hand in hand with the way we view our parents, at least until we reach maturity.
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For me, maturity is a goal. Maybe a few more years…
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“In fact, I’m realizing if I could only be half the woman she was, with her intelligent observations and her kind, fun-loving nature, I would be more than proud.”… touched by this line. Same feelings on this side of the world too.
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Thank you. Almost a universal feeling, isn’t it?
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Yes, in spite of all the teen- mum quarrels and arguments 🙂
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Jennifer, you’re a lot like the woman you describe as your mom. Hugs to you my friend. ❤
Diana xo
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Thanks for saying that, Diana! Hugs back ❤
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Yeah I am very much like my mum the older I get the more like mum I get and you know what that is a good thing as my mum is amazing
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It’s a wonderful thing, Joanne! x
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This is lovely. Sometimes I pass a mirror, and I swear I catch a glimpse of my mother. But as you say, I consider it an honor. 🙂
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I’m glad you feel that way too, Carrie. xo
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What a beautiful tribute to your Mom.
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Thanks, George.
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